Children and Young People

Children can experience both short and long term cognitive, behavioural and emotional effects as a result of witnessing domestic abuse. Each child will respond differently to trauma and some may be resilient and not exhibit any negative effects.

Children’s responses to the trauma of witnessing domestic abuse may vary according to a multitude of factors including, but not limited to, age, race, sex and stage of development.  It is equally important to remember that these responses may also be caused by something other than witnessing domestic abuse.

Children are individuals and may respond to witnessing abuse in different ways.  These are some of the effects described in a briefing by the Royal College of Psychiatrists (2004): 

  • They may become anxious or depressed

  • They may have difficulty sleeping

  • They have nightmares or flashbacks

  • They can be easily startled

  • They may complain of physical symptoms such as tummy aches and may start to wet their bed

  • They may have temper tantrums and problems with school

  • They may behave as though they are much younger than they are

  • They may become aggressive or they may internalise their distress and withdraw from other people

  • They may have a lowered sense of self-worth

  • Older children may begin to play truant, start to use alcohol or drugs, begin to self-harm by taking overdoses or cutting themselves

  • They may develop an eating disorder

Children may also feel angry, guilty, insecure, alone, frightened, powerless or confused.  They may have ambivalent feelings towards both the abuser and the non-abusing parent.

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